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What advice you give to your younger self ? (Mistake that still regret )
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I have a long list because I frequently fantasize about going back to the past to rescue myself. Hopefully posting here will serve as catharsis.
Dear Younger Self,
1. Give up on all hope for finding 'the one'. Don't waste any time searching or trying. Consequently, give up on the hope of having children. It's a crime to bring a child into this world.
2. Don't be reckless with your savings because if shtf you don't have what it takes to turn the gun on yourself. You're in this for the long run.
3. Stop wasting time with 'friends'. They are not your friends.
4. Don't give up your first job in order to chase idealistic dreams or risky projects. You're extremely well paid and this has distorted your view on making money. You have no idea how difficult life is outside your bubble. Follow your first boss when he leaves, good bosses are almost impossible to find.
5. Save a lot and invest early. Read more books on investing/ economics/ etc. Read a lot, stay up to date. Diversify. Bank and invest in multiple countries, even if you can't afford much, do what you can. Study emerging economies. Travel. Be frugal. Expect the worse and have a plan B, C, etc.. Countries can turn crazy overnight. Study history.
6. Be careful what info you disclose online, treat everything online as an open book and stay paranoid. Don't use social medial.
7. Give up sugar, follow an anti-inflamatory diet.
8. Learn a martial art even if you learn it poorly.
9. You're only friend and consolation in life will be Arthur Schopenhauer, but don't read his main work too early, it's too dark. His life wisdom however, read it early on, because once you read it you will never feel lonely again.
10. When it comes to financial concepts, if you don't understand something, don't get discouraged or intimidated. It is probably made to sound difficult on purpose, because it's messed up or immoral. You're a slow learner because you need to understand well all the details. Once you'll get it, you'll really get it.
11. As bad as you are (and you are worse than you think), you are the best person I know. Which tells a lot about humanity. Protect yourself from the masses and avoid endevours or businesses that rely too much on human interaction. Most people are driven by envy, a concept which you do not understand. But you must understand that it applies to others or you will fail to understand the world. Be an island.
12. You fail to impose respect and you must work around it. Not only are you a woman, but you have an innocent appearance and the voice of a 11 year old. You also come across as aloof. People assume you are stupid and you must make peace with this. Hell, you can even take it as a compliment. For example, once you'll own real estate, your tenants will not be afraid to be late on their rent and you must use a property management team (which you must vet, vet and vet until you are 100% compatible with them, with 0 red flags). Always use a (well vetted) authority proxy between you and the common person. Something bothers you? Talk to the manager. As Michael Burry put it <<People want an authority to tell them how to value things, but they choose this authority not based on facts or results. They choose it because it feels authorative and familiar. And I am not, nor ever have been, "familiar.">>. Neither are you.
13. Take that sick stray dog to the vet or he'll linger on your conscience. The fear of getting scabies is not an excuse.
Dear Younger Self,
1. Give up on all hope for finding 'the one'. Don't waste any time searching or trying. Consequently, give up on the hope of having children. It's a crime to bring a child into this world.
2. Don't be reckless with your savings because if shtf you don't have what it takes to turn the gun on yourself. You're in this for the long run.
3. Stop wasting time with 'friends'. They are not your friends.
4. Don't give up your first job in order to chase idealistic dreams or risky projects. You're extremely well paid and this has distorted your view on making money. You have no idea how difficult life is outside your bubble. Follow your first boss when he leaves, good bosses are almost impossible to find.
5. Save a lot and invest early. Read more books on investing/ economics/ etc. Read a lot, stay up to date. Diversify. Bank and invest in multiple countries, even if you can't afford much, do what you can. Study emerging economies. Travel. Be frugal. Expect the worse and have a plan B, C, etc.. Countries can turn crazy overnight. Study history.
6. Be careful what info you disclose online, treat everything online as an open book and stay paranoid. Don't use social medial.
7. Give up sugar, follow an anti-inflamatory diet.
8. Learn a martial art even if you learn it poorly.
9. You're only friend and consolation in life will be Arthur Schopenhauer, but don't read his main work too early, it's too dark. His life wisdom however, read it early on, because once you read it you will never feel lonely again.
10. When it comes to financial concepts, if you don't understand something, don't get discouraged or intimidated. It is probably made to sound difficult on purpose, because it's messed up or immoral. You're a slow learner because you need to understand well all the details. Once you'll get it, you'll really get it.
11. As bad as you are (and you are worse than you think), you are the best person I know. Which tells a lot about humanity. Protect yourself from the masses and avoid endevours or businesses that rely too much on human interaction. Most people are driven by envy, a concept which you do not understand. But you must understand that it applies to others or you will fail to understand the world. Be an island.
12. You fail to impose respect and you must work around it. Not only are you a woman, but you have an innocent appearance and the voice of a 11 year old. You also come across as aloof. People assume you are stupid and you must make peace with this. Hell, you can even take it as a compliment. For example, once you'll own real estate, your tenants will not be afraid to be late on their rent and you must use a property management team (which you must vet, vet and vet until you are 100% compatible with them, with 0 red flags). Always use a (well vetted) authority proxy between you and the common person. Something bothers you? Talk to the manager. As Michael Burry put it <<People want an authority to tell them how to value things, but they choose this authority not based on facts or results. They choose it because it feels authorative and familiar. And I am not, nor ever have been, "familiar.">>. Neither are you.
13. Take that sick stray dog to the vet or he'll linger on your conscience. The fear of getting scabies is not an excuse.
I understand those issues intimately, but I've got to say, I think there's more to imposing respect than that. There was a woman at my old job, not much taller than myself, not frightening in any way in her appearance, but the way she carried herself and talked made people respect her. I think we mostly tell people how to perceive and treat us, through our posture, tone of voice and such.
One more reason to completely detach yourself from the care of how other people think of you.
Very important, especially for women. Too many of us give up our entire identity and life for a man/children.
Do you refer to The Wisdom if Life? Do you have any other book recs that helped you?
#1 Believing all people are fundamentally good and fundamentally smart and those who are not can be saved from themselves (my eyes got opened by 90% of the people taking the covid shot and persecuting the ones who did not) - respect the idiots but don't get dragged down by trying to reason them
#2 not being loyal to the exceptions of #1, the good people - when you find a good person, never let him go and never betray him (notice I don't say her - women are not friends, in the sense of long term, loyal friends, they are acquaintances)
#3 Believing leftish garbage (sex is free, P**N & fapping are innocuous, women and men are the same, joints are harmless, religion is superstiion, manhood is toxic etc (these beliefs will prevent all the points underneath from happening)
#4 not settling for a good enough woman
#5 not investing for the long term
#4 not creating businesses - that would have given me precious experience and financial independence in the end
#2 not being loyal to the exceptions of #1, the good people - when you find a good person, never let him go and never betray him (notice I don't say her - women are not friends, in the sense of long term, loyal friends, they are acquaintances)
#3 Believing leftish garbage (sex is free, P**N & fapping are innocuous, women and men are the same, joints are harmless, religion is superstiion, manhood is toxic etc (these beliefs will prevent all the points underneath from happening)
#4 not settling for a good enough woman
#5 not investing for the long term
#4 not creating businesses - that would have given me precious experience and financial independence in the end
same here.....Paid huge price for this by believing all people are good......Now I believe some are evil by birth...You can do nothing about it...Just learn to ignore them
Of course like anti-vaccine people didn't persecute, insult and try to convince everyone in the world to not get the vaccine, luckily many of those that didn't get the vaccine died and that opened the eyes of many people and saved themselves.
https://www.insider.com/guides/health/mental-health/P**N-addictionDon’t demonize P**N
this is true for btc
But it can’t be a general rule. You must always have an exit strategy.
Evil people are necessary, they are not a problem. The real problem are stupid people, they are unpredictable and extremely dangerous.
This is so true. You get blindsided by the fact that the make decisions that harm themselves in the most obvious ways and you would never make, and then proceed to ramify problems by making more bad decisions on top of the previous ones, gaslighting themselves with "it was supposed to go that way", "it happens to everybody", "it's normal". If you must deal with them (family comes to mind) quintuple check at every step - they will invariably say "everything is fine" and then you get the call about somebody dying or having to sell all they have (personal experience).
No. I think I made my view clear in other threads. And don't want to turn this thread into that topic.
Could you elaborate? Some health problem of a family member that they didn't take seriously?
Source: Billionaire investor Charlie Munger: ‘The world is not driven by greed, it’s driven by envy’
PS. Great stuff!
If expense is a problem, one can arrange to go to public or universities for free. There is no other way aside from college/university to become a Doctor, Lawyer, Dentist, Engineer, Vet, CPA or many other professions These can be both rewarding financially and as a productive lifetime activity.
My kid went to Law School for Free in France. I don't regret my own education and taking courses like History & Literature so I could better understand and appreciate the world around me. In the regret department, my biggest regret was letting the state get into bed with me by marrying; thus spending lots of money & many years in lawyer's offices and courts to get out of a bad marriage.
It is not necessary to "avoid women completely". Why? They can be fun plus you can learn a lot of useful skills & other things from some women . My biggest regret was letting the state get into bed with me by marrying young; thus spending lots of money & many years in lawyer's rathole offices and in one-sided court battles with man-hating Lesbian judges. You may have to pay with blood to terminate a bad marriage. I'd say live together -- maybe 25 -35 years before even considering marriage. Even then, try to avoid that "piece of paper" . It can never do you any good. If your partner wants "security" give them some money or property. Avoid marriage. Divorces can be as dangerous as drinking poison...
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Most marriages fail after 20-30 years of being together.
Here I am, 25 years with the same lady and never been married. Both of us are free to go at any time, that's what's keeping us together, at least for now....
Care when you're sober, not when you're drunk. It's been years since when I last was drunk.
Peter Says: Sorry, but what's keeping you together must also be mutual attraction + the fact that you get along OK. Not just the freedom to separate.
I think marriages that end in divorce usually end much sooner than 30 years. In my experience, when many people (especially women) hit around 40 they see that as their last chance to attract a suitable replacement.. . But at least after 30 to 35 years of good service,IMO, the wife probably deserves half the couple's money. By the way, having a GOOD partner and little kids can be the best time in their lives for most people. I have said IMO that a marriage certificate is for me anyway, an unwanted , un-needed appendage that puts the STATE in bed with you. Tell me what advantage there is in marriage for a wealthy male (or a wealthy female for that matter). Peter Taradash.
This thread seems to focus a lot on whether one should enter into marriage or not—at least when I read the latest posts.
In my opinion, one should only enter into a marriage if they mean it and are honest with each other, without bringing a lie or two into the marriage.
That said, I know that in many European countries, there can be significant tax benefits to being married if you earn a lot of money. This is an argument in itself that many of you here might love
At the same time, I also know that in many parts of the world, it is completely impossible and can get very messy to get a divorce, hence your reactions. However, there are exceptions, such as Denmark, where you can get married with five minutes' notice at a town hall, and if you no longer want to be married, you can go online to "borgerservice" and get divorced in under five minutes without any financial consequences for you, unless you own something together or have some kind of marriage contract that binds you financially.
Just for general interest.
In my opinion, one should only enter into a marriage if they mean it and are honest with each other, without bringing a lie or two into the marriage.
That said, I know that in many European countries, there can be significant tax benefits to being married if you earn a lot of money. This is an argument in itself that many of you here might love
At the same time, I also know that in many parts of the world, it is completely impossible and can get very messy to get a divorce, hence your reactions. However, there are exceptions, such as Denmark, where you can get married with five minutes' notice at a town hall, and if you no longer want to be married, you can go online to "borgerservice" and get divorced in under five minutes without any financial consequences for you, unless you own something together or have some kind of marriage contract that binds you financially.
Just for general interest.
Well in Denmark, there is no wait time, as soon as you have clicked on YES to the "are you sure" question the process is completed.
Each party can sit behind their own screen and handled it in minutes!
Just wanted to add that
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