An exact match to what you're looking for doesn't exist. You have to back down on some of your requirements. And maybe focus less on Wikipedia data points and spend some time in places before ruling them out.
Why are you looking at HDI? If you're rich enough, you can get all the amenities you're used to pretty much anywhere. What's considered rich enough depends on where you're going, and what you expect.
Malaysia, Philippines, Thailand, Costa Rica, Panama, and even Uruguay tick a lot of your boxes if you just approach them creatively.
As for big city where you can fit in as a European, you are missing out on some exciting places if you dismiss them because they don't have at least 1,000,000 inhabitants. A lot of countries don't have cities like that, yet still have plenty of activity from the local economy, expats, and tourism.